Posts Tagged ‘coaching’

8 Ways to Cope Better with economic stress when worried about your job, finances and health

Sunday, April 26th, 2009

 

1)      Immerse yourself in a hobby (if you don’t have one, find one)

a.       puzzles, games, reading, building model airplanes…anything

 

2)      Help someone less fortunate than you

a.       Volunteer at a charity or foodbank or homeless shelter

b.      These types of activities put things in perspective for you

c.       They also give you a feeling of self-worth, value and optimism

 

3)      Do an act of random kindness for a stranger

a.       I went to a coffee shop in grand central last week and bought a coffee for the person in line behind me.

b.      It cost me, $3. It made me feel good and made them smile

 

4)      Hang out with positive minded people, not “Debbie Downers”

a.       There is not a single person in this country that is unaware of what we are dealing with and being reminded of it all day long adds to the problem, not the solution

 

5)      Increase your Education and Learning

a.       Education is power and once you have it, NO ONE can EVER take it from you

 

6)      Write down your goals for the next few years

a.       See yourself in a better situation economically, professionally and personally

 

7)      Do not allow yourself to operate out of fear

a.       Fear clouds judgment and causes us to make bad decisions with

                                                               i.      Our time (ie. Worrying about the economy when we should be enjoying our family on the weekend)

                                                             ii.      Our investments (afraid to take advantage of a great investment opportunity)

                                                            iii.      Our careers (afraid to speak up at work because we don’t want to be viewed as a problem employee)

 

8)       Eat Better and Exercise

a.       Instead of sitting around feeling miserable and scared, be proactive and get in the best shape of your LIFE. It is totally IN YOUR CONTROL. Just takes discipline.

b.      Lowers stress levels, increase self-confidence

 

Dr Doug

 

 

 

Giving Thanks - You Had Help Along the Way

Monday, April 20th, 2009

Anyone who says they made it to the top on their own must have started there in the first place.

 

I just bumped into a former client. He was one of the first clients I ever worked with as a peak performance coach. He is doing great, having success in his life and I wanted to thank him (and the hundreds of others like him) who took the chance and worked with me years ago when I started out my career. The lessons I learned from them served as the foundation of my success and what I am continuing to build right now, which is the Dr Doug brand of peak performance coaching.

 

So today instead of worrying and wondering when the economy will turn around, I am choosing to give thanks to those who have impacted my life and my career.

 

Thank you all.

Dr Doug

Self Coaching - Take Control and Change

Saturday, April 18th, 2009

I am human like the rest of you. I make mistakes and like many of you I beat myself up about it afterwards. I made a substantial one yesterday and am still replaying it in my mind. It distracts me. Takes away from my focus to do more work but more importantly, it consumes my thoughts and tarnishes the precious time I get to spend with my family on the weekend.

 

Today is my son’s 4th birthday party. I am going to break my own destructive behavior pattern before he wakes up so I can be fully focused and present to enjoy what is really and truly important in life. My family.

 

Have you made a business, personal or investment decision recently that you regret? Are you beating yourself up about it? Has it been more than a few hours since you did it? I just did it too and here is what I am doing to get myself out of this funk.

 

Dr. Doug’s Self Coaching Process

I am thinking back through the details to figure out what triggered inside of me and gave me a clue that I was about to do something I would regret later - I have, unfortunately, done this before so I know exactly what the trigger feels like.

 

  • It is when I get in a frame of mind that I have to do things very quickly and urgently.
  • I feel overwhelmed and try to do too much, too fast.
  • I get a tight feeling in my chest and my shoulders start to shrug.
  • I end up getting to all the things but do not end up being as careful about my decisions. while making them. 

 

  • End result is the benefits I get from doing all the work or phone call or email contacts is far less than the damage I do because I get emotional or lose control of the process on just one of them.

 

Solutions - What I am doing to solve this for the future.

  • Next time I feel this emotional, overwhelming feeling come over me, I am going to force myself to take a 5-10 minute break and walk around outside.
  • If when I get back, I am still feeling the sense of urgency, I am going to reach out to my trusted confident to discuss the situation, my thoughts and potential actions.
  • I am then going to type up the situation in my self-improvement log, what the situation was, what I did right, what I did wrong and what I am going to do different next time.

 

I am tired of repeating the same mistake and will modify my behavior so that I can take my game to the next level.

 

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